Mark Montieth: Paying compliments pays off

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4 thoughts on “Mark Montieth: Paying compliments pays off

  1. There’s only one sports columnist whose writing is “can’t miss” and that’s Mark Montieth. If he was writing about sweat socks I’d make it a point to read the story, because he never disappoints. There’s a lot of reporting about the greed and chutzpah in sports these days, and it’s nice to be reminded about the positive side as well!

  2. Feedback from a trusted or respected person is a Huge source of confidence for any athlete. However, platitudes or telling an athlete an untruth to try and boost their confidence can backfire BIG TIME! Honest and truthful feedback is what athletes are looking for: not necessarily critical or demeaning. Think of a compliment sandwich; “You’re doing great. You need to work on xyz. But I love the effort.” Dr. Richard Trammel – Sports Psychologist

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